Wednesday, November 19, 2014

A Very Bad Choice, Help.

HELP! My friends funeral is tomorrow evening.Both the family night and the funeral are combined into one big service. We made plans to go, and to bring a friend home with us. THEN my granddaughter told me she was chosen to be the LEAD singer in a play. She has never sung before, and now she is doing a solo. She tried out and was chosen from the WHOLE school. Her mom told her we could not go. I couldn't STAND it. Phil and I talked, and we called her back and told her we would BE there. We will leave as soon as she has her solo, and try to be at the last part of the funeral service. I HATE this!! I will miss one last tribute to my good friend. I have been in tears for the last day. Tell me what you would have done, tell me SOMETHING. I miss you all and will return very soon, but my nerves are shattered. LOVE to you all...

23 comments:

Ruth Hiebert said...

As much as I would want to be at a friends memorial service,I would,without a doubt choose to be there to support my granddaughter.She can see that you are there,whereas your friend cannot.I don't meant to sound harsh or uncaring,but the truth is that your granddaughter needs to see you there.Hugs to you Ginny.

Sandra said...

the living trumps death every time. your friend is gone, your grandaughter is living and well. go for her and make her happy... your plan is what i would have done.

HOOTIN ANNI said...

If it were me in this situation, I'd send condolences to the family and explain my dilemma. I'm sure they'd agree that your granddaughter takes precedence.

You can always say goodbye to your friend as she lays in peace in the cemetery....but your granddaughter's solo is only ONCE.

Linda said...

I think you have made the right plan, Ginny.

DawnTreader said...

That is a tough choice. I'd say you have to follow your own heart, because no one else will know better where your presence is needed more.

Terra said...

What an upsetting situation; you can not be in two places at once, tis not possible. So enjoy your granddaughter's solo, and explain to your friend's family. That's all you can do. Can you send flowers for the funeral?

A Quiet Corner said...

Family comes first...if you have the chance and they want you there...be there...:)JP

Ann Thompson said...

I'm can guarantee you that your friend would not want you to miss your granddaughters solo. Go, enjoy yourself. Everyone will understand

Tamago said...

What a difficult choice you had to make. I'm sure your friend would not want you to miss your granddaughter's solo. And you are still going to her funeral service. You are doing the best you can so please don't feel bad :-)

Small Kucing said...

I think your friend would want you to attend your granddaughter solo too.

Tanya Breese said...

oh i am so very sorry and sending you hugs and prayers...i think you made the right choice and you know your friend will still be with you, no matter where you go....you will carry your friend with you....i am sorry :(

Tanya Breese said...

oh i am so very sorry and sending you hugs and prayers...i think you made the right choice and you know your friend will still be with you, no matter where you go....you will carry your friend with you....i am sorry :(

Betsy Adams said...

Conflicts are always so hard ---but even though you miss your friend, I'm sure she would tell you to go and hear your granddaughter sing...

You made the right decision--but hopefully you'll get to attend part of the funeral service.

Hugs,
Betsy

Nancy Chan said...

Dear Ginny, I think you have made the right choice. I am sure your friend will understand your dilemma. Your presence will mean a lot to your grandchild. Shalom.

Margaret Adamson said...

If you asked your friend who died the same question, she would answer, go see your grand daughter. Ask God for peace about our decision

Margaret Adamson said...

If you asked your friend who died the same question, she would answer, go see your grand daughter. Ask God for peace about our decision

Ruth Kelly said...

I like you would squeeze both into my scheduled.

SweetMarie said...

I would try to do both. This must be so stressful for you and with your health you don't need anymore stress.
you'll be in my thoughts,
Marie

photowannabe said...

I really like Sandra's response.
You have made the right choice, but it's so hard when your heart needs to be in two places.
(((hugs)))

LC said...

Your good friend would tell you to attend your granddaughter's performance. I share your angst on having to choose, but knowing you, you showed your friend over and over how much you valued her while she was living. Knowing that doesn't erase the pain of not being a part of that memorial service, but she would celebrate your being there for Anne Marie.

DeniseinVA said...

I think we all feel the same Ginny, you made the right decision.

annie said...

We made the right choice, dear friend. Life is for the living.

Catherine said...

Dear Ginny, I am sorry that I am behind in visiting though I am trying to catch up.
I would have done the same as you. Your friend would say you should be at your granddaughter's singing recital. It will be an opportunity to make memories and that is what life is all about, memories. Your friend holds a special place in your heart and your memory and I am sure she would not want you to have missed this recital. Your friend knows you are praying for her and that is the greatest gift of all.
xo Catherine